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The
author of this user-friendly little guidebook defines erotic tickling
as "the feather-light, insistent stroking, teasing, or caressing
of sensitive body parts to create sexual excitement and gratification,
often used during a bondage session." He describes ET, as he calls
it, as "a kink for the new millennium." He explains: "It is gentle
and playful, suggestive of innocence and the frolics of children,
yet capable of inducing powerful orgasms."
Not everyone is attracted to the idea of tickling or being tickled,
of course, as Moran acknowledges. He identifies three types of
readers: those who are averse to ET, those who are somewhat interested,
and those who love ET so much that it is a staple of their sex
lives. He dedicates the book to those fans, and explains that
any adult can practice ET on the consenting adult of his/her choice.
Despite the standard disclaimer that this book is not intended
to express gender or sexual-orientation bias, the author's heterosexual
approach is clear throughout.
On this note, the author's
revelation that the "Michael" described at length in "Case Histories"
is really himself seems too cute. The coyness continues in the
back-of-the-book blurb which defines "Michael Moran" as "the pseudonym
of a well-known author of articles and nonfiction." However, his
account of his relationship with his late wife, a wonderfully
compatible tickle-partner, is poignant. As the author reminds
the reader, the meshing of sexual tastes (and the length of a
human life) can never be taken for granted.
In "Accessories," the reader is encouraged to try using various
objects beyond fingers: feathers, brushes, bracelets and other
jewelry, mirrors, fabric, furs, home-made "ticklers" and bondage
equipment. The significance of bondage to enforce the helplessness
of the tickle-victim (even if this is only imaginary) is explained
further in its own chapter.
In the chapter on bondage
and throughout the book, the author tries to occupy a middle ground
between the world-view of conservative married couples and that
of the experienced leather community. He claims:
"The idea of tying up your lover and giving him - and yourself
- a good time has become almost commonplace among the sexually
sophisticated, and even less adventurous couples can be seen at
novelty shops giggling over the 'bondage kits' that contain cheap
plastic handcuffs and fluffy red feathers. . Still, it is wise
to keep in mind that bondage can be heavily freighted with negativity;
it is, after all, a standard practice of the torturer, the rapist,
the serial killer. . . one must be cautious, as bondage can be
frightening or disagreeable for some people."
The author advises the tickler
to be especially cautious the first time, and to incorporate more
explicitly sexual forms of stimulation into the tickling, or vice
versa.
There is a chapter on problems
and solutions and another one on scenarios, or standard tickling
fantasies: the Gestapo (or 'secret police") officer and the beautiful
spy, the eco-terrorist and the CEO of an oil company, the businesswoman
and the UPS man who arrived late with an important delivery, the
gruff cowboy who has kidnapped the uppity schoolmarm, the therapist
and the patient who needs to shed her sexual inhibitions. Strangely
enough, the author claims that the "therapy" fantasy is milder
than those that are more clearly associated with BDSM, and would
be suitable for tickle-victims who are unwilling to be "abused,"
even in play.
In "Extreme Tickling," the
author points out: "in tickling the line between ecstasy and violent
discomfort can sometimes blur." He describes his own preference:
"I am a person who has no desire whatsoever to experience any
kind of discomfort," but in an "each to his/her own" passage,
he quotes Jay Wiseman (in SM 101) on masochism:
"They [masochists] sometimes
enter a mental state where the blows no longer feel unpleasant.
. . Masochists seem to have states of consciousness in common
with yogis, fakirs, and other people who follow altered-consciousness
pathways."
The author admits that tickling,
in itself, does not qualify as a black-hanky activity, but he
suggests ways in which ET can be combined with more intense stimulation,
as required.
ET is also discussed in
a context of fetishism. The sole of the foot is described as one
of the most ticklish places on a human body (although not to the
exclusion of other sensitive areas, as the author points out)
and therefore ET can be combined with other forms of foot-worship
or foot-torture. On a historical note, "Moran" explains: "foot
fetishism is a relatively recent phenomenon, since throughout
human history feet were unhygienic and grossly calloused, and
consequently lacked erotic appeal. . . Foot-fetishism, and by
extension tickle-fetishism, are refinements of high civilization."
This description sums up
the tone of this book, which seems intended for the relatively
privileged reader (or couple) who wants to dip one toe, as it
were, safely into the pool of kink. This book definitely fills
a niche, but the author need not have approached every sub-topic
with a feather-duster.
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