KINGLIZARD

Age: 59

Gender/Orientation:
MALE - Hetero-Sexual

Location:
North Central Pennsylvania

Years involved in D/s and/or BDSM: 59,

What do you get the most pleasure from in a session?
Exemplary, and sincere service is a skill that My servant is expected to acquire and enjoy.

Are rituals part of your relationship? If so, can you tell us about some of them? Greeting rituals, help to establish the emotional "mood" of belonging. Ritual punishment allows My servant an opportunity to atone and be forgiven for her transgressions.

What is the biggest benefit for you of being a dominant?
I am emotionally fulfilled by the responsibility and success of My servant.

Where does sex fit in with your opinions of BDSM - D/s?
In simple terms, SEX is a powerful social language that has evolved for millions of years. It is the instinctive and natural way to express Dominance and submissiveness and it evokes these emotions clearly and unambiguously.

Do you believe in 24/7 D/s? Why?
YES, Because I am an Alpha Male, 24/7.

To what degree is your relationship BDSM OR D/s (or both). All the time, part of the time, weekends only, etc. Please elaborate.
I am a polyamory, Dominant, Man, and they are My servants, All the time! My servants and I are not blind or stupid, but the limitations of 21st century culture are recognized and we respond by making our best effort to integrate our feelings and behaviors into THIS world.

How important is it that dominants have some sort of personal experience or perspective of what they ask of their submissive to endure/perform?
To Me, Not important at all. I believe that BDSM, Is generally about SENSATIONS. If you wish to experiment with sensations, find a partner, negotiate a deal, and play.

What is your definition of the power exchange between dom and sub?
Power exchange is the "bargain" or agreement, made between Dom and sub. There is a genuine need for this, as most people are unlikely to find a true Alpha Male, and therefore they are able to enjoy the pleasures of these instincts within the framework of such an arrangement.

When serious anger occurs directly related to something pertaining to your submissive, how do you feel it should be dealt with? I feel there is NEVER a sufficient reason to become truly angry at My servant. I think if a "Dom" becomes ANGRY.. He fails to control his own emotions and MUST conclude any activity UNTIL he regains control of HIMSELF!

What does being a dominant mean to you personally?
I have learned to say NO and have become comfortable with the expectations of other's as I grow older. Do you believe a D/s relationship should be symbiotic, or is it all about your needs? I believe that My servant is an EQUALLY important counterpart to My dominance. I find, joy, peace, and fulfillment in her and she in Me.

What are your personal views on the dynamics of D/s? How important is negotiation for you?
My servants tend to idolize and adore Me, thus I don't need to negotiate. I expect her to find her greatest pleasure in serving My desires and My will, BUT, I expect her to ASK for what she wants, as well.

What are your feelings on slave contracts?
I don't use the word "Slave" as in My lexicon, it implies enforced servitude. I have used contracts, in the past, to make a ceremonial point.

How did you enter the BDSM world? OR ... What personal experience(s) led you to the BDSM lifestyle?
I have experimented a bit with BDSM, but I consider most aspects of Bondage, Sadism, and Masochism, to be irrelevant to the emotional bonds of Dominance and subordinate behavior.

What do you feel sets you and your practice/pursuit of the BDSM lifestyle apart from others?
ALL of the Above, Perhaps My many years of formal education in Anthropology, Behavioral Psychology, and Brain Science.

How would you approach (WOULD you approach...) or deal with a vanilla acquaintance who was curious about BDSM and What It Is That We Do?
Since I have written and lectured extensively about social/sexual behavior and the importance of cooperation and social bonding, to the survival of our species, I think I have often helped people to see more clearly, that even the most "vanilla" folks, respond predictably to the emotional impact of a Dominant Male.

Do you think long term couples should continue to adhere to limits and safewords or should they work to eliminate them?
I think they are a bit silly for a trusting relationship, and I think if there isn't trust, one should get the hell out of there!

How important is sceneing within the parameters of your relationship?
NONE

What do you feel is the single, most important thing for any new dominant to learn (or observe, explore, share) when entering into this lifestyle? Can you give us an example of one of your first learning experiences?
I believe that a person who wishes to EXPLORE the feelings of "Dominance," should carefully measure the emotional responses He/She feels from being in charge. If you enjoy the feeling of pushing other's around, or forcing your will upon others through fear, or physical strength, that isn't really Dominance.

IF you genuinely seek the RESPONSIBILITY of leadership, and are fulfilled by accepting it, regardless of the outcome, THEN perhaps you are truly a Dominant. IF you are master of yourself, and you don't DUCK, when the shit hits the fan, but instead, look for the OFF switch, despite getting splattered, maybe you are suited to be someone else's "Master."

I have ALWAYS known that other's were attracted to Me, and expected "something" from Me. As a boy I was always the one that was in charge and never felt this was wrong or odd.

One thing I have noted in My research is the remarkable coincidence that many real Alpha's have never had a real fight or been bullied by anyone.