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Aghhhhh the dreaded Drop!

As a Dom, I have been both witness to and subject of the dreaded drop. Is the drop that a submissive experiences the same as a Dominant would experience ? Well that I cannot begin to contemplate. As to the severity sub drop and what causes it, well that too is still a mystery to me.

I do know that for my submissive there is varying degrees of drop. I have witnessed mild confusion, lethargy, uncharacteristic clumsiness, vagueness to complete and utter (almost hysterical) displacement/disconnection. It is the latter for me that holds the key in giving me some comprehension as to the actual cause.

I sight a particularly bad drop situation which occurred with my submissive some 16hrs after a relatively heavy session. My girl had left the home to go to a local store (some 3 minutes away). Prior to this she seemed perfectly fine and showing no signs or ill effects from the previous days activities and having suffered no apparent drop to date. She arrived home some 20 minutes later completely disorientated, rational one moment and hysterical the next. Laughing, crying, lucid and incoherent all in rapid succession and within the blink of an eye. While out, I later discovered, she had gotten lost numerous times, left her mobile phone at a shop (even though upon arrival home she insisted she never took it with her) and returned home without the items that she went out to get in the first place. I have no idea of who returned from the store that day, but it was not MY submissive. In her place was some gibbering mess of thoughts and emotions that could not be placated.

To put this into some context the person I am talking about is a Senior Administrative Manager for an international company, she is well organized, able to work under extreme pressure and capable of making snap decisions.

So what brought about this incredible behavioral change? Simple it was drop!

OK so what caused the drop?

Well after looking back at that occasion and others that have occurred in the past (none so severe or scary), we have noted some commonality that could be the catalyst to the dreaded drop. We believe in our case is it due to a disconnection! What the hell am I talking about?

One minute I am in control, though not actively participating in physical activities, the environment still exists, the power exchange is still in tact, my girl still in some form of mild space or spacey, comfortable and secure in the knowledge that I am looking after and out for her. Then the next minute that connection is broken and she is cast adrift from the control that has been exerted over her. How would you expect her to feel and react? I would suggest all of the classic symptoms of drop would be reasonable and understandable in such a case, how could she not drop?

This disconnection that I talk about, the best name my girl and myself can think of for it, can occur for many reasons. Environment changes, an outside influence - whatever - something breaks the connection! It does not have to be physical removal of one from the environment that brings about the disconnection. Whatever the cause the result is going to be similar, that being the submissive now has to struggle to regain something that they have given up. Control! But how does one do that when perhaps they don't want it, weren't prepared to have to take it or don't at that moment in time know how to take it? Hell no wonder it can be a traumatic time!

I have more questions, than I have answers in regard to sub drop (as would be expected). However by observation and discussion, I have gained some level of understanding of how drop affects my girl and how I can go about minimizing the effects.

I know that everyone's experience with Drop will most likely be different, yet I do feel that if we look at the overall experience, some form of Disconnection, in our sense of the word, can be detected.

Jag

Visit Jag's Austrailian website or contact him at Jag @ floggers-r-us.com

"Top drop" or "bottom drop" is a physiological reaction that, I do not believe, is limited to BDSM. Any activity that stimulates the production of brain chemicals, including (I believe) serotonin, is likely to result in a similar condition when the "high" wears off. It's the price we play for playing with endorphins, adrenalin and other chemistry.

There are ways to reduce the price we pay:

1. Play regularly but perhaps not hard. It evens out the highs and lows to something less noticeable.

2. Remember that adrenalin immediately consumes blood sugar in the blood stream so EAT immediately after play. Fruit and such are best.

3. Exercise regularly to support your play. Any physical activity will help even out the highs and lows.

4. Pamper yourself in the days following play. Indulge in sensual pleasures that will help even out the highs and lows.

I am of the belief that the best thing to manage the after-effects of play is to live a healthy and well-balanced lifestyle. Recent experiences have proven to me that exercising even moderately can really make a difference. However, the exact recipe for moderating the highs and lows is a very *individual* thing.
Ken
Independent BDSMer,
Calgary, Alberta, Canada