One of the most frequent comments heard by those ‘in’ the BDSM community, when approached by a new member is, ‘I didn’t know there were others here in the Pueblo’.  

Urges Start Early.
I remember feeling the same way years ago when I found a local group, which I could grow and learn with.   Although my BDSM tendencies started from an early age, I was afraid to admit them to my so-called ‘vanilla’ partners.   Nowadays, I look back and wonder just how many of them were afraid to admit it to me also.

Up to 50% of the Population
BDSM is a sexual orientation found in a good percentage of the population.     Recent reports calculate 7 to 14% practice BDSM, with up to 50% of the population BDSM-curious.  These people come from all walks of life; Professionals, celebrities, office workers, etc.

Not all Whips and Chains
Contrary to the image produced by mass media, BDSM is not all whips and chains.  It is not ‘spousal abuse’, nor sexist.  The Dominant or submissive can be of either gender.  When taught and practiced in a proper environment, with the proper mindset, BDSM is not dangerous.  

Safe, Sane, and Consensual
In fact, the community motto is ‘Safe, Sane, and Consensual’.   That means that the participants are all voluntarily involved in each ‘scene’.  There are certain safety checks in place.  Safewords to stop a scene.  SafeCalls to friends when meeting someone for the first time. Dungeon Masters, who act as a safety officer and keep an unbiased eye on all scenes.

BDSM People are Everywhere. 
They could be the person sitting next to you on the bus, your co-worker, even your spouse/partner.   And yes, BDSM people are in the Pueblos.  They’ve been here for a long time. You are not alone.