What's your favorite target?
That varies based on who I'm playing with and what they need/want. But, if left up to me, I'll focus on pussy lips!!

What percentage of your strokes are off target? HA ! (JOKE!!!!)
LOL, wonderful question. Unfortunately way more than I like. One of my main goals is to continue improving my eye-hand coordination and therefore get better aim at the same time. Aim is important!

What do you get the most pleasure from in a session?
I cannot say anything specific. The entire process (getting ready, setting the mood, building up, all that comes with it) excites me to no end. I get the most pleasure from the entire package. If things go really well, it is much more pleasurable. If there are any problems with the scene, then my pleasure is less of course.

Are rituals part of your relationship? If so, can you tell us about some of them?
I am not highly ritualistic. I have requirements in play - and in relationships. Those mainly center around the same things that I work hard to do myself (respect people, care for them when they need it, listen to them when they speak, understand the difference between being human and being incapable or disrespectful, etc). I expect the same in return.

What is the biggest benefit for you of being a dominant?
Recognition of who I actually am, and the gain of the freedom to be who I am.

Where does sex fit in with your opinions of BDSM - D/s?
BDSM, in my opinion, is not much related to sex. That does not mean that there isn't sex-related play that falls under the BDSM umbrella to some people. D/s as I have seen it practiced usually involves sex. What I believe more than anything, is that we all have kinks. We all have desires, wants, needs, and as time goes on we learn more and more about what they are. If we are smart (and sometimes lucky) then we will arrange to do those very things more often than not. If those include sexual needs, so be it. If they don't, then so be it. I try not to stuff any particular kink into any particular definition.

Do you believe in 24/7 D/s?
Not for me. I find that it's extremely hard for myself to stay in the mindset of a dominant at all waking moments. I do empathize with people who feel this is possible, and have met passionate people who say they've done it or are doing it. I simply have never found it possible myself. Kids, work, the flu, life (in general) - all get in the way. For me, it would require too much neglect to the other important things in life for me to be able to live the lifestyle 24/7.

To what degree is your relationship BDSM OR D/s (or both).
We are still determining that, and it's a bit too early in our relationship to be able to define it. She needs more BDSM play, I need both.

How important is it that dominants have some sort of personal experience or perspective of what they ask of their submissive to endure/perform?
I think that it is very important, and it certainly helps if the dominant has actually sincerely attempted to DO what they ask of a submissive. I don't believe it's completely necessary in all cases. There exists in many dominants the ability to understand the level of dedication, emotion, desire, strength, etc, to accomplish things in life without having to actually experience all that they ask of a submissive. I do feel that if a Dominant wishes to use BDSM style play that they should first try it out on themselves as best is possible, if not having actually been a submissive.

When serious anger occurs directly related to something pertaining to your submissive, how do you feel it should be dealt with?
Anger is the devil's spawn in my opinion. As much as any of us would love to be able to deal with complex issues when angry, I find it hard to believe that anybody handles issues the same when angry as when not angry. The most respectable people I have ever met, both in professional life and in personal life, were those who could handle their reactions and supress anger. But, to answer your question more directly, I do not think that anything should be handled when either are angry. It just creates additional baggage that has to be sorted out later.

What does being a dominant mean to you personally?
Oh, you couldn't possibly expect me to answer that in such a short comment? Well ok, if so, then I'll settle for saying, it's the equivalent of freedom. It gives me the ability (and the right, for that matter) to be who I am.

Do you believe a D/s relationship should be symbiotic, or is it all about your needs?
I believe that any relationship should be symbiotic. It's not about the needs of one in particular. It should be about the needs of all. For some it's a dream, but I sincerely believe that in an ideal relationship, not only is each responsible for helping their mate gain their needs, but the act of doing so will also satisfy some their own needs.

What are your feelings on slave contracts?
Discussing limits are good. Discussing scenes are good. Having a good line of communication and the ability to listen well is good. Being prepared for changes in a relationship and handling those well is good. Contracts? To me they are of no more value than the paper they are written on. Successful relationships are created by humans, in the wants and desires to make something work.

How did you enter the BDSM world? OR ... What personal experience(s) led you to the BDSM lifestyle?
I distinctly remember my first actual lifestyle experience. Let me say first, that I have always been a bit controlling in the bedroom. I was lucky enough to have a first love (a girlfriend in high school) who LOVED for me to be that way, and it stuck. But my first actual experience was in a bar in the French Quarter called "The Dungeon". I had no idea at the time it was a lifestyle place, at the time there was no play going on. But I danced with this girl who was so deeply into it that I worried I'd have to catch her when she fainted. I remember distinctly, she would occasionally look over to her left for this guy who was dressed up in leather, and they would meet eyes, her waiting for his head shake - my assuming this meant yes, it's ok, keep having fun. When I learned about collars, then I realized, he was her Master. I also recognized that the same sort of control of a person was what I constantly needed in my own relationships. That pointed me towards lifestyle people seeking what I needed!

Do you think long term couples should continue to adhere to limits and safewords or should they work to eliminate them?
I cannot say that they should seek to eliminate them. But I believe that as time goes on between long term partners limits and safewords naturally become of less importance. That's assuming of course that the partners continue to learn.

What do you feel is the single, most important thing for any new dominant to learn (or observe, explore, share) when entering into this lifestyle? Can you give us an example of one of your first learning experiences?
First and foremost, be yourself. Don't try to be what somebody else wants you to be. There's way too much of people attempting to change themselves going on in my opinion. We are adults, and it's not as easy for us to change our ways as it was when we were kids. Making ourselves better by improving personal habits or gaining additional skills, fixing problems with temper or trying to gain more self control, all these are good things for a Dominant. But, if you aren't compatible with a person, learn to realize it and don't try to force compatibility. That just leads to heartache. Secondly, keep learning. Always strive to learn. A stagnant Dominant is one who slowly slips into some of the infamous traps that we get into (selfishness, loss of self-control, etc)