Do you believe in safe words and limits? What are your personal limits?
Role play activities. I find them artificial and forced.

What's your favorite target?
My sub.

What percentage of your strokes are off target? HA ! (JOKE!!!!)
All my strokes are on target (and if they weren’t I’d never admit it!) HA! (JOKE!!!!)

Do you believe in 24/7 D/s? Why?
Yes because though I am not into micro management my relationship is D/s oriented and that sets the tone for all we do.

When serious anger occurs directly related to something pertaining to your submissive, how do you feel it should be dealt with?
I will start with a time out, for both of us. Once the emotional responses have leveled off it is time for a long heart to heart and a then I make a decision as to punish or not.

Do you believe a D/s relationship should be symbiotic, or is it all about your needs?
I believe all healthy relationships of any kind are symbiotic.

What are your feelings on slave contracts?
They are a good in the sense that both parties understand each other’s expectations and responsibilities. From a legal point of view they are not worth the paper they are printed on.

What do you feel sets you and your practice/pursuit of the BDSM lifestyle apart from others?
I don’t really care. I do what I find works for myself and my sub.

What do you feel is the single, most important thing for any new dominant to learn (or observe, explore, share) when entering into this lifestyle? Can you give us an example of one of your first learning experiences?
It is ok to be wrong and it is ok to admit it. Dominants are not omnipotent. You don’t hang the title on yourself and expect to know it all. It takes years to find the philosophies in this lifestyle that fit you as an individual and as you learn, they will change. Be open to what others have to say and use that information accordingly.

My best lesson came from a sub shortly after I entered the BDSM world online. She told me I’d benefit from sitting back and keeping my mouth shut. That piece of information was provided to me after I joined in with a couple other doms who were insisting we should all be called Sir or Ma’am, in the chatroom we were in. She was aware I was new to the whole BDSM thing and we’d chatted privately a time or two. She was not happy with me at the time.

She was right, I backed off and shut up and began observing how people were behaving. It wasn’t long before I saw the difference between the online only crowd and the ones that were really living this stuff. Guess which direction I ultimately took?