I don’t live in Vancouver, for one thing, but none the less they think I should travel to the City during their visit and fit my time around their work. Not only should I put my own BDSM world on hold at their convenience but I should book this FREE time more than a month in advance.

A few even offer to come all the way to Victoria and serve me night and day for weeks at a time. Of course they wish to stay in my home and require no more than a place on the floor to sleep and a bit of food and water now and then…hmmm sounds a bit expensive for me doesn’t it? Also would appear to use up a lot of my personal and work time so that these submissives can have a kick ass holiday!

On very rare occasions I do allow a sub I have met online to come to my home and spend a few days but only if I have a very real feeling that I can help them to integrate into my local BDSM world or feel that my knowledge may in some way benefit their growth and understanding of D/s which is of course my first love. I make it perfectly clear that they will not be owned by me or even under consideration to be owned by me but that I will introduce them into my world so that opportunity may knock for them.

These requests generally drive me insane. Cause me to respond dismissively. Bring out the Bitch Domme in me which in rare cases is unfair and in most cases 100% appropriate. I often wonder how many other Dommes receive these types of requests and if I am the only one that sees them as self serving and having less than nothing to do with a Mistress’ pleasure?

What has brought out the rant today you may ask yourself? Well this week alone I have had a request that has been repetitive from a sub in Edmonton to fit him into my schedule but to do so by joining him in Vancouver on my own nickel I presume, next week. It is his desire that I spend 2 weeks at his submissive beck and call and the sad thing is I truly believe this boy has no clue that it would be I serving him if I complied and that I might enjoy him and his service very much if I ran into him at an event.

Two Italians wish to come to me for extended trainings in service. They wish to stay in my home of course and serve me 24/7. Which could be lovely if in fact I needed a servant or two and was interested in devoting my days and nights to training subs I would see at best a few times a year, far too expensive both financially and time wise.

Then there is the boy in Quebec also going to be in Vancouver…can I meet him there and train him? Yes I can, no I won’t! Nice young man and gorgeous to look at (I must be insane!) but travellers just don’t float my boat. Dominating in Hotel rooms brings me no pleasure and playing vanilla girlfriend with those that “think” they have fallen in love the first time they are taken to their knees actually enrages me…and an enraged Mistress is nothing to trifle with. (Sounds like a new column developing here)

Of course there are also the ones in Vancouver that wish to holiday in my home on their days off with very specific agendas…”feminize me Mistress for your pleasure” “make me your sissy slave or your sex slave or your oral slave…use me…give me to your friends and on and on and on. Hmphhhhh if only it were that easy my little victims…ooops I mean submissives.

But enough of that…

Every sub or slave I have ever owned in real time including those I own to this day have come to me through the Internet. None have asked for a FREE holiday and in every instance it is I that has invited them to come to me. When the invitation is sent and not sought I do not see it as a FREE holiday on my back but as an opportunity to see if the sub in question has as much real time value as I suspect they do and if my training can benefit us both. When they accept the invitation I am honoured that they trust me enough to place their vulnerability in my hands by entering my home for the first time.

What I am discovering over the years and more recently than previously is that the submissives that are over 45 seem to have the girlfriend/Mistress thing going on. The I would like to marry you and have you control me A B C and D when I am home from work. They are sincere but have definitely chosen the wrong Mistress if they see girlfriend/wife in their futures with sexual Domination being their primary goal…or feminization as a primary goal…or mommy Domme as a primary goal. For this Mistress Domination is a complex scenario and only the entire enchilada entices my interest, so those of you with special interests that are self serving please save your time for another woman who may also enjoy being a girlfriend serving your interests. There are many Mistress’ that truly do have the same agenda which really is a wonderful thing.

Now you may also be getting annoyed at my emphasis on FREE but lets break it down just a little and you may see how and why I get annoyed. It is really all common sense and almost any woman in the world, I would assume, unless incredibly rich and with more free time on her hands than the majority of us has could rationalize the annoyance from my point of view.