There
are many indications lately that the BDSM lifestyle is creeping
into a broader segment of the general population.
Some say that they feel BDSM has become so mainstream that it isn't
as much of a taboo as it was several years ago. From movies such
as “The Secretary”, to shows like “Desperate
Housewives” and “CSI”, BDSM is getting coverage,
and with that coverage comes new, wider spread intrigue. With that
in mind, one has to wonder about the influx of "newbies" to
the lifestyle and where and how they are becoming educated.
Think about the vast
wasteland of knowledge available on the Internet. There are endless
acronyms and interest questionnaires, numerous
BDSM dating sites where all it takes is a screen name and you are
a “Master” or “slave”, not to mention the
infinite number of websites proclaiming to be the know-it-all of
BDSM or the “true way of D/s”. They must decipher rules
of safety, the relativity of sanity, and figure out what risk aware
means, and tailor it all to their own lives.
There are always those long-standing members of every community
that will take newcomers under their wing. They will show them
'the ropes' and teach them things that before they had only thought
about (and sometimes not even that). With that though, comes many
of those same people being told that there is one specific way
to live the lifestyle.
They are led to believe that there are obvious distinctions about
behavior. For example, a new submissive; through online conversations
and interactions, often feels that her behavior must appear to
be demure, shy, always obedient, in order to be viewed as what
it is she wants to convey about herself. On the other hand, a dominant
newly pursing the lifestyle often times comes across as demanding,
rude, and living in a sexual fantasy.
It is a responsibility of those of use who are in the lifestyle
to educate and provide information for newcomers seeking knowledge.
From books and movies about BDSM, to large events and local munches,
discussion groups and E-zines; these are all different forums
for educating about and embracing the BDSM lifestyle and all
it’s many facets. Differing views, outlooks, and experiences
all need to be accessible for those wishing to learn in order
for them to form their own concept of BDSM that works for them.
Their BDSM. We must provide a plethora of information for them
to read, analyze, interpret, and form to their own use.
On that note,
this month's issue of TDV is pleased to bring you a new column, 'Dear
Desmond'
- Advice for the Kinky. Read Desmond’s
advice on common and not so common questions. Desmond can be reached
at
dravenstone @ thedomsview.com.
This issue also brings
thoughts on integrity by Mistress
Marlene and an article on punishments
by Master D Bates that is sure to
get you thinking about alternatives to corporal punishments. Switch’s
Corner brings you a glimpse into an initial exploration of anal
play and Deborah Addington brings an introspective look at service,
regardless of “which end
of the pipe and slippers you’re
on.” Sir Casak writes a very personal account of the adjustments
one makes “When Your Submissive
Can No Longer Serve”.
Looking for information
on building your own toys and furniture? Look no further! Kayla
presents a review of “The
Better Built Bondage Book”, which outlines instructions of how to build
basic through advanced items.
This issue
also brings you an amazing collection of shibari photographs
by Mateo of Nawayoi, as well as
a collection of amateur images by Lady
Sultry that is sure to tantalize your senses. Not to
be outdone, another collection of poetry by
L.A. Mistral paints images with words, and emotions with text
for your enjoyment. And we have
hotter than hot erotica with
Heat by Harriet Scott and part 5 of Bluejay by Moll Saunders.
So come settle in, bring your cuppa and peruse the multitude of
articles and images we bring to you this month!
Sinnocent
Contributing Editor
The Dominant’s View
|
