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Age: 39
Gender/Orientation: male/straight
Location: Fort Wayne Indiana-USA
Years involved in D/s and/or BDSM:
Do the years that I didn’t know what to call it count?
Anything else you wish to share?
I could rant about a bunch of things...But who’s listening?

Do you use toys? If so, what is your favourite toy, and why?
Yes and that depends on your definition of toy. Restraints are my favorite accessory, bondage and dildo torture is a favorite game of mine. So I really like complex vibrators and various insertables in concert with tight bondage.

Do you believe in safe words and limits? What are your personal limits?
Yes, my personal limits include children, animals, anything unsanitary, dangerous, or otherwise disgusting.

What's your favorite target?
Pussy, clit, nipples, thighs… Oh you want me to pick a favorite?

What do you get the most pleasure from in a session?
Power exchange, total trust and surrender. It’s a mutual thing.

What is the biggest benefit for you of being a dominant?
I’m not sure there is a benefit as such. I’ve been graced in meeting some very cool people. I’m just glad that I’m out enough to follow my true desires and seek fulfillment.

How important is it that dominants have some sort of personal experience or perspective of what they ask of their submissive to endure/perform?
I am a firm believer that every Dom should understand the kiss of his own whip. You need to understand what you’re doing.

What is your definition of the power exchange between dom and sub?
Total trust, mutual acceptance, the true definition of love

When serious anger occurs directly related to something pertaining to your submissive, how do you feel it should be dealt with?
We talk. I never use play techniques or BDSM tools in a punitive fashion.

How important is negotiation for you?
Mutual satisfaction and total acceptance. Symbiotic.

How did you enter the BDSM world? OR ... What personal experience(s) led you to the BDSM lifestyle?
I was born into it.

What do you feel sets you and your practice/pursuit of the BDSM lifestyle apart from others?
I try not to compare myself to others. I am who I am.

How would you approach (WOULD you approach?) or deal with a vanilla acquaintance who was curious about BDSM and What It Is That We Do?
With a pair of handcuffs(Ha Ha)

What do you feel is the single, most important thing for any new dominant to learn (or observe, explore, share) when entering into this lifestyle? Can you give us an example of one of your first learning experiences?
Okay well I’m not sure about the whole lifestyle business or what that means...I am what I was born to be, this is not a form of rebellion for me, its not about shock value, I’m not overly public but if someone asked Id tell them...I don’t know when I entered into this "lifestyle", I’m just acting upon my natural desires.

As far as what’s most important - be safe. And for Gods sake be open minded, listen and learn. Be respectful and don’t be an asshole, it gives the rest of us a bad name.